Take off those Sunglasses

‪#‎mindsetmonday‬ Having a mindset that leads you into negativity, condemnation, or other gobbledegook is like having sunglasses on. These sunglasses affect your ability to perceive reality. They taint all you do and see.
Going with this analogy, my goal with ‪#‎changeyourreality‬ fitness is to get you to take off those funky sunglasses, be able to really see life as it is, and believe you are of great worth. 
I have encouraged you to stand at the door of your thought life. Do not let any thoughts in that are not of you. The icky thoughts start out as a drop, create a stream, and then become a cascade of powerful gobbledegook. This creates a channel in your brain and in your life. That is when you are in complete agreement about something that was said to you or whatever, that is not true.
For me one of these channels was, "I will never lose weight." I came into agreement with this in a big way. Every diet failed which reinforced the pass/fail mindset and also reinforced this massive gobbledegook. Think of the sunglasses I had on with this thought pattern. This mindset affected the way I saw eating, going to the doctor, dating, health, and, of course, exercise.
Please be an advocate for yourself. Listen to your thoughts and what you say to others about you. Listen for things you always put yourself down about. This often represents a mindset you have believed about yourself that simply isn't true. Listen for things like "I never..." "I always..." etc.
You can, absolutely, change these thought patterns. You can choose to hold these thoughts captive, to renew your mind with the truth, and walk powerfully into the future.
Take off those sunglasses, agree with the amazingness that makes you unique, and run the race.
‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎breakickythoughtpatterns‬ ‪#‎agreewiththetruth‬‪#‎ditchthegobbledegook‬ ‪#‎changeyourmindsets‬ #changeyourreality

Come Alive - Dream!

#‎mindsetmonday‬ Do you find yourself focused on what the world, your parents, your spouse, your boss, your coworkers, or your relatives say you should be? 
What if you were to spend a few minutes and think about this instead.... what makes you come alive?? 
Friends, the world needs people who are truly alive!! So, what makes you come alive? 
To start thinking I want you to ponder these questions: Where does your heart long to go on vacation? What cities does your heart feel happiest when you think about or visit? What population of people do you truly enjoy? [For me, my population is children of all ages]. What activities make you come alive? If you could do any job, what would you feel the most content in?
Why not spend a few moments each day for the next week and just daydream? Think about if you could be anywhere, with anyone, doing anything -- what would it be?
Our focus for this group is fitness. So, I have always said it is important to find at least one thing fitness-wise that makes your heart happy. What is that one thing that you can do weekly or more often if possible? Now, daydream for a minute, what would make your heart happy to do fitness-wise?
You can choose to ‪#‎changeyourthinking‬ and really dream. By stepping into these dreams, you tap into who you really are meant to be. I know some of you may feel trapped by whatever your current circumstances are, but I want you to take time to dream - you are worth it and your dreams matter! By just dreaming you will begin to see things in a new light and with new hope. Doors will open. Trust me. I am living proof of this. Please, dream! ‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎comealive‬ ‪#‎changeisgood‬ #changeyourthinking ‪#‎changeyourreality‬

Your Old Movies

The hippocampus is basically the librarian in your brain. It keeps track of short and long term memories. The hippocampus tells us what happened in our lives. Memories that are the most meaningful to the hippocampus are those represented in our heads with pain or pleasure.

Likewise, unresolved trauma is kept track of in the hippocampus.

These memories are movies of your perceptions. All of your recollections are perceptions of your viewpoint. What I mean is, this is your movie. It is the way you viewed or perceived the events. Bottom line, your opinions are not always the truth .

What if you could take the events, the movies that your hippocampus finds significant (these are the things you replay in your head or the stories you repeat over and over to others) and get rid of the emotional anchors?

I think, like sickness/illness (the migraines for me), you can find your identity in some of the trauma or the old memories you replay. Do you ever find yourself saying something like "I was bullied as a child" or identifying yourself as one who was abused? What are the movies of your life?

To truly step into who you are meant to be, we are to leave the past behind. But, how in the world do we do that when these things replay or come up regularly in life? This is where we can go back to our tapping method I demonstrated in the video.

Are you ready to ditch the old movies? Are you ready to stop identifying with your past and focus on the amazing person you are now? If you are, I want you to write down 1-5 of the most significant events in your life emotionally. This would include anything you had a strong reaction to as a child and still can invoke a strong reaction when you think about it or relive it. Everyone has memories that were traumatic. What is traumatic to one, is not to another.

Finally, jot down a few memories that are your happiest. We will use both to help you get free and focus on what is true and real. #freedom #perception #youroldmovies #ditchthegobbledegook #changeyourbrain #changeyourreality

Be Your Own Best Friend

#mindsetmonday What should you think when you make a mistake? If you embrace the fixed mindset of pass/fail, it is always bad when a mistake is made. It is a fail.

But with the growth mindset, I teach the kids a mistake makes your brain grow. Can we apply this to our lives as adults? Could you change your thinking about that event in the past that you relive as a mistake in your life, for instance? Could you note how you have grown from that and just let it go? [Remember holding onto old stuff is brain trash!]

What about the way you feel you have failed on your diet or your fitness goals? Can you change the way you speak to yourself on these things? What if you saw whatever happened as simply a place you are growing/learning and leading you to the next step?

Isn't it really true that you do not fail unless you quit??

So, please, adjust your thinking. Renew your mind. Hold any condemning thoughts captive. Be your own best friend. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend - with love, kindness, compassion, and patience. #beyourownbestfriend #growthmindset #ditchpassfailmindset #changeyourthinking #changeyoureality

Beauty is a Mindset!

‪#‎mindsetmonday‬ Beauty (from the world's view) is a mindset. What and who is considered beautiful is ever changing. How can one reach true beauty in society's view? Is it not a fruitless search? Is it not like chasing the wind? Beauty is the means by which society deems value, but do we have to buy into that mindset?
I have found that trying to become whatever others say is beautiful has lead to sadness, depression, and self-hatred. When we put down our bodies, hate specific body parts, or say negative things about ourself - is this really life giving or life taking? 
Is this really where we want to be? Striving continuously to become whatever society deems is beautiful at this moment in time?
Or could we choose to shift our mindset? What if we chose to renounce the memories, the thought patterns, and societal gobbledegook that taught us this mindset? 
Here are some steps to do this:
1) Identify the things you are agreeing with. (For instance, I have been in agreement that only thin women are pretty).
2) Choose to hold every thought captive. In other words, think, "Does this thought help me or hurt me?" Then if it is brain trash, throw it away - literally! Take it out of your head with your hand and throw it away. I know it sounds crazy, but it helps. I teach kids to do this all the time at my work. 
3) Replace any icky thoughts with something that is true and real about you. For instance, "I am worth a lot!"
4) Choose to not expose yourself to whatever triggers the most negative thoughts. 
I have come a long way from self-condemnation and self-hatred and now agree with who I really am. I see my value and it is not determined by the mirror or the scale. You are of great value! You are an orginal! ‪#‎renewyourmind‬ ‪#‎changeyourmind‬ ‪#‎mindset‬ ‪#‎changeyourreality