mindsetmonday When you think about what happened to you -- as a child, in a relationship or marriage, at work, or in your family -- what do you think about? Are you blaming someone? Did you know that when you blame someone you are actually hurting yourself - it is the ultimate disabler. If you are blaming it makes you get stuck and feel sick. No matter what was done to you, you have a choice of how you feel and what you think about it. We cannot control other people's behaviors, but we can control how we respond to them or think about them. Forgiveness never excuses behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart
So, consider shifting your thought patterns. When you take some ownership (for instance, even just acknowledging your emotions you are feeling about the situation/issue/memory) that can be empowering and will help you to let it go. Consider pairing this with the tapping strategy I have posted videos and release the strong feelings tied to your heart.
#youhaveachoice #ownyouremotions #changeyourmindsets#changeyourthoughts #changeyourreality
During my time in Belize, it was very hot. I chose not to exercise all week long. As a result, coming back into my normal fitness schedule this week has been challenging. It is amazing to see what is lost with one week off. I could allow this to affect me -- maybe making me go lighter; I could even buy into old gobbledegook and say maybe "I am not strong enough" or whatever; I could condemn myself and say I was "so bad for not exercising." But, that's not who I am or who I have become. I am powerful and strong. I choose not to believe in an "all or nothing" type of mindset. I choose to give myself grace. I choose to go full throttle on my workouts and leap back into it all.
I think people use an "all or nothing" mindset all the time when it comes to exercise. Taking off a day for your workouts doesn't have to ruin your whole week. Taking off a week doesn't need to affect how you do the rest of the month. Give yourself grace. Life happens. Kids need things. Spouses can be demanding.
Why not to choose to #changeyourthinking by giving yourself grace and not giving up? Can you hold any critical thought captive -- that is brain trash - let it go!
Could you try writing out your fitness schedule for the week then analyze what worked, what didn't? Do you need to look at smaller bursts of exercise? Think of the those 10 minute high intensity training apps we have discussed before.
Remember friends, you need to a cheerleader for yourself! Give yourself compliments about your progress. (Share them on here and we will encourage you, too).
No matter what - you are worth it!! You are amazing! You are making progress! #changeyourreality
#changeyourthinking #ditchthefixedmindsets #giveyourselfgrace
#mindsetmonday What is your identity based in? Just take a moment and think when you meet a new person what is the first piece you use to identify yourself? Growing up the focus for me was on accomplishments, degrees earned, and my profession. So my go to was, "I'm Katherine, I'm an elementary school counselor." Living in Chicago was fascinating because the main question people would ask after finding out your name is, "What is your nationality?" So, in Chicago, people defined themselves through their nationality. It also would explain which neighborhood you lived in.
What is your identity rooted in? Being a mother? Your profession? A hobby?
I was thinking about this during a personal training session today. I was thinking, "I am an athlete!" My trainer worked with the University of Iowa baseball team. He trains athletes and I am an athlete. This is part of my identity I want to focus on and agree with more.
Why is it important to find where your identity is rooted? When the most important thing about me was my profession - it limited me. I am a school counselor, but I am also an encourager and motivator. I think when I only focused on accomplishments (like getting good grades, getting a master's degree, or whatever) it was limiting and gave me a spirit of perfection and drivenness. But, when I root my identity in who I am and what is remarkable about me (not focusing on the opinions of others) I can see myself clearly and celebrate what is positive about me.
So, think for a minute. What is remarkable about you? What makes you uniquely awesome? Can you begin to think about that as part of your identity rather than just being your child's mom or your career? #celebratewhoyouare #youareworthit #changeyourmindsets#changeyourthinking #changeyourreality
#mindsetmonday Do you find yourself focused on what the world, your parents, your spouse, your boss, your coworkers, or your relatives say you should be? What if you were to spend a few minutes and think about this instead.... what makes you come alive?? Friends, the world needs people who are truly alive!! So, what makes you come alive? To start thinking I want you to ponder these questions: Where does your heart long to go on vacation? What cities does your heart feel happiest when you think about or visit? What population of people do you truly enjoy? [For me, my population is children of all ages]. What activities make you come alive? If you could do any job, what would you feel the most content in?
Why not spend a few moments each day for the next week and just daydream? Think about if you could be anywhere, with anyone, doing anything -- what would it be?
Our focus for this group is fitness. So, I have always said it is important to find at least one thing fitness-wise that makes your heart happy. What is that one thing that you can do weekly or more often if possible? Now, daydream for a minute, what would make your heart happy to do fitness-wise?
You can choose to #changeyourthinking and really dream. By stepping into these dreams, you tap into who you really are meant to be. I know some of you may feel trapped by whatever your current circumstances are, but I want you to take time to dream - you are worth it and your dreams matter! By just dreaming you will begin to see things in a new light and with new hope. Doors will open. Trust me. I am living proof of this. Please, dream! #youareworthit #comealive #changeisgood #changeyourthinking #changeyourreality
#mindsetmonday Beauty (from the world's view) is a mindset. What and who is considered beautiful is ever changing. How can one reach true beauty in society's view? Is it not a fruitless search? Is it not like chasing the wind? Beauty is the means by which society deems value, but do we have to buy into that mindset?
I have found that trying to become whatever others say is beautiful has lead to sadness, depression, and self-hatred. When we put down our bodies, hate specific body parts, or say negative things about ourself - is this really life giving or life taking?
Is this really where we want to be? Striving continuously to become whatever society deems is beautiful at this moment in time?
Or could we choose to shift our mindset? What if we chose to renounce the memories, the thought patterns, and societal gobbledegook that taught us this mindset?
Here are some steps to do this:
1) Identify the things you are agreeing with. (For instance, I have been in agreement that only thin women are pretty).
2) Choose to hold every thought captive. In other words, think, "Does this thought help me or hurt me?" Then if it is brain trash, throw it away - literally! Take it out of your head with your hand and throw it away. I know it sounds crazy, but it helps. I teach kids to do this all the time at my work.
3) Replace any icky thoughts with something that is true and real about you. For instance, "I am worth a lot!"
4) Choose to not expose yourself to whatever triggers the most negative thoughts.
I have come a long way from self-condemnation and self-hatred and now agree with who I really am. I see my value and it is not determined by the mirror or the scale. You are of great value! You are an orginal! #renewyourmind #changeyourmind #mindset #changeyourreality
