Blame - The Ultimate Disabler

‎mindsetmonday‬ When you think about what happened to you -- as a child, in a relationship or marriage, at work, or in your family -- what do you think about? Are you blaming someone? Did you know that when you blame someone you are actually hurting yourself - it is the ultimate disabler. If you are blaming it makes you get stuck and feel sick. 
No matter what was done to you, you have a choice of how you feel and what you think about it. We cannot control other people's behaviors, but we can control how we respond to them or think about them. Forgiveness never excuses behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart
So, consider shifting your thought patterns. When you take some ownership (for instance, even just acknowledging your emotions you are feeling about the situation/issue/memory) that can be empowering and will help you to let it go. Consider pairing this with the tapping strategy I have posted videos and release the strong feelings tied to your heart.
‪#‎youhaveachoice‬ ‪#‎ownyouremotions‬ ‪#‎changeyourmindsets‬‪#‎changeyourthoughts‬ ‪#‎changeyourreality‬

Do I have to stay sick?

#mindsetmonday Let’s discuss the mindset of Condition vs. Event again. If you remember this is one that really runs against what society and the medical community says. One can either identify themselves as someone with a medical condition or illness (having this be part of your identity) or you can run against the mainstream and say whatever it is you are dealing with is simply an event - a short term circumstance and not a permanent state of being.

I used to have daily migraines and identified myself as one with “chronic pain.” In essence, I agreed with this condition and lived my life operating in a sick mentality. I would not commit to doing social things with friends because I knew I would have a migraine and be too sick; I did not go on any trips or vacations because I knew I would be too sick so I never even planned them; I did not do more than five minutes of exercise (such as walking the dog to the mailboxes) because I was just too sick and knew I would get sicker if I did.

Do you see how I lived in agreement with this mindset? I knew I was sick and would probably be sick for the rest of my life. It was a condition I had to somehow come to terms with, rather than an event. Learning that this was a mindset and that I could change my thinking, truly freed me and was one of the ways I became free of the daily headache. By renewing my mind and pushing out of my sick comfort zone - meaning I did whatever I thought I could not do. I began to live my life as a healthy person. I made plans with friends. I went on a short road trip to Chicago. I began exercising. This truly changed my reality.

However, yesterday, I woke up with a migraine. This, of course, is so unusual for me now.  However, a few of the old fears wanted to creep back. My initial thought was, “I better rest today so I don’t get sick.” I stopped and said, “No!”  I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that this headache was just an event. I refuse to live in fear anymore! I know that migraines are not who I am. Therefore, I  went ahead and attended a CXWorx (a core class) and BodyJam class walking in the knowledge that this was an event and would leave soon -- it was gone by the afternoon.

Where are you with your aches and pains? What about diagnoses? What would happen if you changed the way you viewed whatever ailed you? Rather than seeing it as a life sentence - what if you saw it as an event that you would come through? How would you live your life differently? What if you changed the way you thought?

I am not recommending dropping medication or whatever your doctor recommends, I am only encouraging you to change the way you think about it.  I know, from my own experience, that often it is mind over matter and the things you think you cannot do you actually can.

#growthmindset #eventnotacondition #changeyourthinking #ditchfear #renewyourmind #livethelifeyouwant #changeyourreality

Take off those Sunglasses

‪#‎mindsetmonday‬ Having a mindset that leads you into negativity, condemnation, or other gobbledegook is like having sunglasses on. These sunglasses affect your ability to perceive reality. They taint all you do and see.
Going with this analogy, my goal with ‪#‎changeyourreality‬ fitness is to get you to take off those funky sunglasses, be able to really see life as it is, and believe you are of great worth. 
I have encouraged you to stand at the door of your thought life. Do not let any thoughts in that are not of you. The icky thoughts start out as a drop, create a stream, and then become a cascade of powerful gobbledegook. This creates a channel in your brain and in your life. That is when you are in complete agreement about something that was said to you or whatever, that is not true.
For me one of these channels was, "I will never lose weight." I came into agreement with this in a big way. Every diet failed which reinforced the pass/fail mindset and also reinforced this massive gobbledegook. Think of the sunglasses I had on with this thought pattern. This mindset affected the way I saw eating, going to the doctor, dating, health, and, of course, exercise.
Please be an advocate for yourself. Listen to your thoughts and what you say to others about you. Listen for things you always put yourself down about. This often represents a mindset you have believed about yourself that simply isn't true. Listen for things like "I never..." "I always..." etc.
You can, absolutely, change these thought patterns. You can choose to hold these thoughts captive, to renew your mind with the truth, and walk powerfully into the future.
Take off those sunglasses, agree with the amazingness that makes you unique, and run the race.
‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎breakickythoughtpatterns‬ ‪#‎agreewiththetruth‬‪#‎ditchthegobbledegook‬ ‪#‎changeyourmindsets‬ #changeyourreality

Come Alive - Dream!

#‎mindsetmonday‬ Do you find yourself focused on what the world, your parents, your spouse, your boss, your coworkers, or your relatives say you should be? 
What if you were to spend a few minutes and think about this instead.... what makes you come alive?? 
Friends, the world needs people who are truly alive!! So, what makes you come alive? 
To start thinking I want you to ponder these questions: Where does your heart long to go on vacation? What cities does your heart feel happiest when you think about or visit? What population of people do you truly enjoy? [For me, my population is children of all ages]. What activities make you come alive? If you could do any job, what would you feel the most content in?
Why not spend a few moments each day for the next week and just daydream? Think about if you could be anywhere, with anyone, doing anything -- what would it be?
Our focus for this group is fitness. So, I have always said it is important to find at least one thing fitness-wise that makes your heart happy. What is that one thing that you can do weekly or more often if possible? Now, daydream for a minute, what would make your heart happy to do fitness-wise?
You can choose to ‪#‎changeyourthinking‬ and really dream. By stepping into these dreams, you tap into who you really are meant to be. I know some of you may feel trapped by whatever your current circumstances are, but I want you to take time to dream - you are worth it and your dreams matter! By just dreaming you will begin to see things in a new light and with new hope. Doors will open. Trust me. I am living proof of this. Please, dream! ‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎comealive‬ ‪#‎changeisgood‬ #changeyourthinking ‪#‎changeyourreality‬