Leave the Past Behind

Do you live in the past? Do you replay past events (good or bad)? Sometimes people are their past. They are in complete agreement with who they were then, whatever was said to them, or what happened to them. This can lead into a victim type of mindset. In this mindset, your past speaks louder than your present and your potential.
What can you do to step away from living in the past? How do you create a way out? You may need to release some people - perhaps a toxic one or two that keeps you stuck in the past -- always reminding you of the past.
If you are focused on who you were, what you used to look like, perhaps a relationship you used to have - it is time to let that go. If there are strong feelings associated with it, try using the tapping technique outlined in the two videos I posted earlier.
By focusing on your past you leave little or no room for optimism in the future. Shift your focus. Look at the future (perhaps even the next minute or hour if you are in a state of crisis or true sadness) and know that joy comes in the morning. If you move forward with trust in your heart, walking with faith and stepping into the unknown life will be much better than if your focus is on the past.

#mindsetmonday #runtherace #leavethepastbehind #avictimnomore #agreementwithwhatistrueandreal #changeyourthinking #changeyourreality

Take off those Sunglasses

‪#‎mindsetmonday‬ Having a mindset that leads you into negativity, condemnation, or other gobbledegook is like having sunglasses on. These sunglasses affect your ability to perceive reality. They taint all you do and see.
Going with this analogy, my goal with ‪#‎changeyourreality‬ fitness is to get you to take off those funky sunglasses, be able to really see life as it is, and believe you are of great worth. 
I have encouraged you to stand at the door of your thought life. Do not let any thoughts in that are not of you. The icky thoughts start out as a drop, create a stream, and then become a cascade of powerful gobbledegook. This creates a channel in your brain and in your life. That is when you are in complete agreement about something that was said to you or whatever, that is not true.
For me one of these channels was, "I will never lose weight." I came into agreement with this in a big way. Every diet failed which reinforced the pass/fail mindset and also reinforced this massive gobbledegook. Think of the sunglasses I had on with this thought pattern. This mindset affected the way I saw eating, going to the doctor, dating, health, and, of course, exercise.
Please be an advocate for yourself. Listen to your thoughts and what you say to others about you. Listen for things you always put yourself down about. This often represents a mindset you have believed about yourself that simply isn't true. Listen for things like "I never..." "I always..." etc.
You can, absolutely, change these thought patterns. You can choose to hold these thoughts captive, to renew your mind with the truth, and walk powerfully into the future.
Take off those sunglasses, agree with the amazingness that makes you unique, and run the race.
‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎breakickythoughtpatterns‬ ‪#‎agreewiththetruth‬‪#‎ditchthegobbledegook‬ ‪#‎changeyourmindsets‬ #changeyourreality

Come Alive - Dream!

#‎mindsetmonday‬ Do you find yourself focused on what the world, your parents, your spouse, your boss, your coworkers, or your relatives say you should be? 
What if you were to spend a few minutes and think about this instead.... what makes you come alive?? 
Friends, the world needs people who are truly alive!! So, what makes you come alive? 
To start thinking I want you to ponder these questions: Where does your heart long to go on vacation? What cities does your heart feel happiest when you think about or visit? What population of people do you truly enjoy? [For me, my population is children of all ages]. What activities make you come alive? If you could do any job, what would you feel the most content in?
Why not spend a few moments each day for the next week and just daydream? Think about if you could be anywhere, with anyone, doing anything -- what would it be?
Our focus for this group is fitness. So, I have always said it is important to find at least one thing fitness-wise that makes your heart happy. What is that one thing that you can do weekly or more often if possible? Now, daydream for a minute, what would make your heart happy to do fitness-wise?
You can choose to ‪#‎changeyourthinking‬ and really dream. By stepping into these dreams, you tap into who you really are meant to be. I know some of you may feel trapped by whatever your current circumstances are, but I want you to take time to dream - you are worth it and your dreams matter! By just dreaming you will begin to see things in a new light and with new hope. Doors will open. Trust me. I am living proof of this. Please, dream! ‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎comealive‬ ‪#‎changeisgood‬ #changeyourthinking ‪#‎changeyourreality‬

Be Your Own Best Friend

#mindsetmonday What should you think when you make a mistake? If you embrace the fixed mindset of pass/fail, it is always bad when a mistake is made. It is a fail.

But with the growth mindset, I teach the kids a mistake makes your brain grow. Can we apply this to our lives as adults? Could you change your thinking about that event in the past that you relive as a mistake in your life, for instance? Could you note how you have grown from that and just let it go? [Remember holding onto old stuff is brain trash!]

What about the way you feel you have failed on your diet or your fitness goals? Can you change the way you speak to yourself on these things? What if you saw whatever happened as simply a place you are growing/learning and leading you to the next step?

Isn't it really true that you do not fail unless you quit??

So, please, adjust your thinking. Renew your mind. Hold any condemning thoughts captive. Be your own best friend. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend - with love, kindness, compassion, and patience. #beyourownbestfriend #growthmindset #ditchpassfailmindset #changeyourthinking #changeyoureality

Beauty is a Mindset!

‪#‎mindsetmonday‬ Beauty (from the world's view) is a mindset. What and who is considered beautiful is ever changing. How can one reach true beauty in society's view? Is it not a fruitless search? Is it not like chasing the wind? Beauty is the means by which society deems value, but do we have to buy into that mindset?
I have found that trying to become whatever others say is beautiful has lead to sadness, depression, and self-hatred. When we put down our bodies, hate specific body parts, or say negative things about ourself - is this really life giving or life taking? 
Is this really where we want to be? Striving continuously to become whatever society deems is beautiful at this moment in time?
Or could we choose to shift our mindset? What if we chose to renounce the memories, the thought patterns, and societal gobbledegook that taught us this mindset? 
Here are some steps to do this:
1) Identify the things you are agreeing with. (For instance, I have been in agreement that only thin women are pretty).
2) Choose to hold every thought captive. In other words, think, "Does this thought help me or hurt me?" Then if it is brain trash, throw it away - literally! Take it out of your head with your hand and throw it away. I know it sounds crazy, but it helps. I teach kids to do this all the time at my work. 
3) Replace any icky thoughts with something that is true and real about you. For instance, "I am worth a lot!"
4) Choose to not expose yourself to whatever triggers the most negative thoughts. 
I have come a long way from self-condemnation and self-hatred and now agree with who I really am. I see my value and it is not determined by the mirror or the scale. You are of great value! You are an orginal! ‪#‎renewyourmind‬ ‪#‎changeyourmind‬ ‪#‎mindset‬ ‪#‎changeyourreality